Am packing all that belong to me
I think i may be slowly brooding myself for a worse heartbreak
I wished for a happy home, a great marriage better than all i had ever seen
I dreamed of a good husband,
one who would always be true to me
One who would keep his word
One who would respect me
One who would drink occasionally,
I got into this marriage blindly,
I thought things would change, that was my mistake.
This is the beginning of a long journey, a safari that will need loads of energy and strength. Its amazing what we our children go through because of our choices.
I believe i need not to stay with an emotional abuser for the sake of the kids
I need not sacrifice my happiness
I know someone can treat me better
I can find one
I can do better
I stopped so low but i need to stand for what i believed in.
I need to fly higher
Tuesday 18 December 2012
Monday 17 December 2012
I Need You to Know..
I need to feel your love
but i dont
I need you to be honest with me
you have so many secrets am afraid, i see my heart in pieces once more
Am afraid time isnt on my side
I want you to tell your friends am your lady
but for obvious reasons you cant
I need you to acknowledge my presence in your life
am just but a suitor for the moment
I need you to know that i love you,
and you must be aware it comes once in a lifetime
I need you to know i don't like the way you treat life
I need you to know forgiveness has a limit
I need you to know once a mistake is repeated we call that ignorance
and am not here to wait for that
I need you to know someone would want to have by his side all his life
He says he would treat me better
By look of things, i kinda trust him
He is a complete opposite of you
He may turn out to be a good cookie
I need you to think about you and me over
am about to make a decision that will alter our lives, for good.
I still need you not to take me for granted,
I also need you to know that my Love will last
but
i may not forever be beside you,
People evolve, People move on, People change, as they search for happiness
but i dont
I need you to be honest with me
you have so many secrets am afraid, i see my heart in pieces once more
Am afraid time isnt on my side
I want you to tell your friends am your lady
but for obvious reasons you cant
I need you to acknowledge my presence in your life
am just but a suitor for the moment
I need you to know that i love you,
and you must be aware it comes once in a lifetime
I need you to know i don't like the way you treat life
I need you to know forgiveness has a limit
I need you to know once a mistake is repeated we call that ignorance
and am not here to wait for that
I need you to know someone would want to have by his side all his life
He says he would treat me better
By look of things, i kinda trust him
He is a complete opposite of you
He may turn out to be a good cookie
I need you to think about you and me over
am about to make a decision that will alter our lives, for good.
I still need you not to take me for granted,
I also need you to know that my Love will last
but
i may not forever be beside you,
People evolve, People move on, People change, as they search for happiness
Saturday 15 December 2012
A good wherever You go
Its amazing how our minds work. Once you decide to focus on the positive all that you see is goodness.
You get to see a good in every awful situation. A positive attitude can take you where education cannot.
No matter what you face, face it with a calm and peaceful mind, Do not let nothing bring you down.
At the adverse of calamities, despair grows, frustrations occur but your ability o survive is heightened. You will always conquer all odds
When you feel you have reached your end, The LORD whispers you have just began.
Live wisely
You get to see a good in every awful situation. A positive attitude can take you where education cannot.
No matter what you face, face it with a calm and peaceful mind, Do not let nothing bring you down.
At the adverse of calamities, despair grows, frustrations occur but your ability o survive is heightened. You will always conquer all odds
When you feel you have reached your end, The LORD whispers you have just began.
Live wisely
Wednesday 12 December 2012
Low Key
Am so low today a lot is going through my mind. i kinda feel not appreciated and it takes me thinking why i let myself be walked over all the time.
In a span of days i feel like i want to retreat and start my life once again
This is a struggle, Forgiveness is a fight that i must win otherwise it will weigh me down.
It always very difficult to forget someone who have given you so much to remember. I got a past to show for it. I got two beautiful;l children to show, he will forever be part of me, all my days. I wish i could go back and wouldn't even date him.
Its hard for me not to associate every little thing he does from his past. I have placed a tag on his neck that bears his mistakes.
Am not being fair but i cant help it
I know i need o focus on the good, be positive but i know when i get back home i may find a better enviroment
In a span of days i feel like i want to retreat and start my life once again
This is a struggle, Forgiveness is a fight that i must win otherwise it will weigh me down.
It always very difficult to forget someone who have given you so much to remember. I got a past to show for it. I got two beautiful;l children to show, he will forever be part of me, all my days. I wish i could go back and wouldn't even date him.
Its hard for me not to associate every little thing he does from his past. I have placed a tag on his neck that bears his mistakes.
Am not being fair but i cant help it
I know i need o focus on the good, be positive but i know when i get back home i may find a better enviroment
Tuesday 11 December 2012
Foundation of Forgiveness
We need to forgive:
- For things done to us
- For things said about us
Where there is betrayal forgiveness is close
For things done to us
- Happens when a person very dear to us breaks trust we got for them
For things said about us
- Happens when the very dearest talk ill behind our backs
Whether you decide to stay r leave after any kind of betrayal. forgiveness is paramount. I will focus on those who decide to stay. You should ONLY opt to stay when the other party is willing to mend their ways.
Often, we will encounter betrayal, what matters most is how we react, at least that is in our capacity to control.
Forgiveness is a very wide topic. It is our day to day life. It involves disengaging with all the anger, resentments, pain, heartaches that you may have accumulated all years. Its a new beginning. A new slippery walk. You've got to have the stamina to achieve the results.
Forgiveness is holding a funeral for all the injustices done to you and burying them. It involves self love. You need to accept it wasn't your fault. Its a choice they made anyway oblivious of the consequences. Its very sad you are the bearer of the consequences.
We all react differently when faced with such i.e
When you get your healing path things get easier to understand, things change, friends turn foe, family neglect you but you get stronger cos they don't stop your life unless you let them. Anybody who has traveled this road knows very well how forgiving can be time consuming, u feel caged, frustrated, disappointed who said forgiveness is easy? but it is the best gift you can give to yourself. Betrayal is inevitable, how you handle it is optional. You must strive to get over it with a calm mind, you emerge stronger.
A nagging thought 'it was my fault' can be haunting, it keeps ringing every hour but you have got to stamp on it and listen to your heart lots of inspiration would be oozing from it. Do what will help you grow, write a book, indulge in a new hobby, join a support group, seek therapy, there are lots of options to help you get over it. Always imagine yourself inspiring others wearing a smile cos it will happen someday.
Its never the end, unless you declare it to be, let it be your beginning, its your dawn, A new Morning, A new day, fill in the blanks with a positive attitude. Acceptance saves you from depression, don't let it rule over you, be the master and say no to pain. You must embrace your feelings, if you feel hurt deal with it, if you feel you like crying please do, everything will turn out good.
You must become a fighter, you must soldier on, you must never give up on what you believe in, you must always focus on the goal. You must not let nothing stop you, even when you feel frail and out of strength soldier on. You must get your way out, there is always a way out of every obstacle, figure it out, get creative, do what you must do. There is unspoken joy after a struggle, i assure you, you will appreciate yourself more.
Hate and anger does cause pain and resentment that only do harm to you, you have got to let go what you still holding on if it is negative..choose today to be set free. Free from your wicked past, free from betrayal. The willingness to punish your offender always result in disappointment cos they don't react as you want them to.
I have used tough and strong language against my spouse, it always backfires on me, it hurts him and i end getting hurt more, one for saying them words and second for seeing the damage i do to our relationship.
I made a decision to let myself heal, to trust him,he gave me every reason to. Whenever thoughts of doubts would cross my mind, i would gladly shut them off, i had already given them enough room and it was time to deal with them. You feel whole again, you feel free. Life gets a new meaning.
You have a relationship to protect, it could be with yourself and others, you need to forgive yourself before you can extend it to others. Forgiveness is two way. You may also be the betrayer whom guiltiness has taken a toll on. Forgive yourself and learn from the mistake. Any one else who comes into your life, treat them better.
Always focus on the end result, you will not loose focus. As you embark on the healing lane, be conscious of your reaction to different situations in your life. You must not let the victim in you influence you in making hasty and bad decisions. If there is no peace within ourselves we tend to make decisions we would normally not do and they can be expensive. i have traveled that road i can ascertain that.
Holding onto un forgiveness steals your vision as you tend to focus much on anger, hurt, resentment. You have got to get out of the smoky house and wipe out them tears, you will otherwise be suffocated.
Be fair to yourself, acknowledge the reality-you have been hurt or you have a hurt a soul, you need time to heal, its a process, live a day at a time. Don't get disappointed when you get to the route of doubting yourself to trust again. It is part of the process.
There is part of us that love to hold on to a grudge, we feel its justifiable playing victim massages our ego but we in fact do more harm to ourselves. People too take time to change a habit, give yourself and others ample time. Expect imperfection from them, give room for mistakes and you will be happier understanding than confronting, but i don't mean you let yourself be disrespected.
You must be ready to work on your vices and every day practice on how to overcome them. If you get back to the start, do it again, do what works for you, focus on the good. Compliment yourself when you go for a day without fail, cos i know it aint easy.
Once i discovered what my spouse had done, i got into a habit of checking his phone just to be sure, because my mind was still bruised all i saw was infidelity and did take a toil on me and our relationship, we constantly fought battles that should have been there. We were headed to a battle zone until he sat me down and told me, i got to trust him, what i was doing was hurting what we were trying to build again. I promised myself never to sneak into his in-boxes ,to date am on a clean state and things changed.
You are the only person who knows yourself best, no explanations would make anyone understand you. Don't let unhappy thought distract your blessed day, Never let an opinion weigh you down, people don't know what you are going through, ignore them. Don't seek any one's advise, most will tend to be biased. if you have decided to forgive your spouse, you are the only person who understands your decision. If you decide to leave, oblivious of a non-remorseful partner get out quietly and deal with the stresses of separation else where. You know best what is best for you, listen to yourself. you know best about the cons and pros of your decision.
While you are on the journey of forgiveness,do appreciate yourself more, you may have never imagined this would happen to you, like i did. You get to discover how prepared you are when a calamity strikes, you feel proud of yourself.
Focus on the positive aspects of life, don't let the negative ones destroy your joy. Accept your concern for the fear and butterflies that will oftentimes fill your stomach. Learn to live true to yourself and when the betrayer makes changes to make you happy, tell them and be grateful.This will encourage them to even please you more.
Let forgiveness drive out anger, all the resentments, and let the clean beautiful soul remain. Replace the pain you feel with a loving heart. Let love be the judge. Be the change you want to see in your relationship. If you want to see things change, you must be willing to go an extra mile, you must take the first step..at the end of the road every experience you have been through and every tear as you sailed through the rugged seas, it will be worth it.
You may go through a phase where you feel you can trust as you did, you cant hold on as you used to. You may not have much strength to trust any promises from them especially, change of character. Some how you will always feel afraid of the unknown especially another heart break. i have been there done that and am better now. Am amazed by myself, on how much i haave been able to heal and rebuild my trust for my spouse. i no longer feel like it ios necessary to spy on him. It finally feels home.
Its so difficult to focus on forgiveness when your spouse constantly does the same things that lead to infidelity. They make you loose interest in them
even love can be re-born
I do feel like i would be betraying myself by leaving my spouse. i would leave him vulnerable up for worse. He got so much in his closet that if i left he would feel so naked. But am not his keeper, i feel i assist him get sober, but that's my problem, i think i can fix him. the bitter truth is that, i cannot. He has made his choices to be selfish and the consequences zero down to me.
Things don't always happen as planned. Ensure you got a plan B, just in case.A change is a process, be kind to yourself and others.They are like baby steps, you stand you fall, you crawl, the joint hurts, you fall so many times till you walk. we all know it isn't easy you need loads and tonnes of patience especially with yourself cos when your insecurity turns up you hurt people and ends up getting hurt even more. You tend to hate yourself but be good to yourself.
As you embark on this journey of forgiveness you tend to have so many questions, and you risk being a nag. Watch the kind of questions you ask if they are often its time to focus on something else. Focus more on yourself, once you are comfortable with yourself it is easy to cope with the significant other.
Differences never drew couples apart, the handling of the differences is the culprit. Deal with the issue and not the person(although it is difficult not to associate the doer with the action). They should be a lesson to both parties on the responsibilities in the relationship.
All successful and happy relationships consist of compromise, sacrifice, communication, constant forgiveness and understanding, loads of compliments and use of the magical words(please, thank you). Great relationships are not only hard work but TOO. Avoid resentments at all costs, they damage happy people, always communicate your feelings. Your partner will appreciate your effort to sort out things other than being mum and unresponsive, i can ascertain these.
You must believe in yourself, in your spouse and your union if you need to see maturity. If you believe in something, you always strive to be at your best, you will reap the great fruits, dont you despair. With Love no obstacle should be a hurdle, Love conquered the worst battle, it can fight for your marriage, it can fight for your friendship, it will do it for you just let it be.
Keep vigilant of the things that bring conflict, avoid them. Although human nature is to rebel, be the person your spouse loves to hang around with. Be kinder, what they love do it more. Let the misunderstandings you face be challenges that will let you be creative dynamic in your solving skills.Same problems can be solved differently every time. Avoid the attack phrases that tend to stretch you two even further apart, remember at the end of the day you still need your spouse. You don't want to leave them bruised with hurtful words that you said to them.
When times are tough always get to see a good in every negative. Believe in yourself, your confidence will attract your life desires. You get what you are looking for. Strive for the best marriage, strive to be the best employee/er, treat people with care and concern. Forgiveness heals wounded careers, it restores ailing personalities. A grudge imprisons you to a cage of unhappiness, terminal illness, make a decision to forgive yourself and others.
Most of us are guilty not because we hurt others but cos we let ourselves down. We are our own enemy, we must let go and forgive ourselves. when you feel like you are running out of energy, surround yourself with positive environment have faith in yourself. You must be happy and at peace with yourself if you want to be happy in your relationships.
As opposed to seeing what your partner is contributing to the problem, be the solution focused person, you could be the problem. Wear their shoe too, spend a day in their world, yo may learn something about them that you never had. Truth be told, people don't decide to be unfaithful, friendships don't just break, there is always a series of negative energy that been built up. It is advisable to work on disagreements head on. Resentments should never find a room in your heart. Learn to be a good communicator.
Appreciate yourself more, Invest in you, The people who hurt you may not always understand their selfish behavior did have consequential outcome, they may never apologize or even make an effort to change. It isn't your business what they do, deal with yourself let them go, life has its own way of revenge.
Holding on to resentments binds you to that person, you are imprisoned to them, forgiveness gives you freedom. If its your spouse, if you decide to forgive them, don't remind them of the past for a present mistake. Forgiven spouses too battle with guiltiness and it does take a toll on them. they too need to heal. They need your support too as much as you need to hold them accountable for their actions.
Forgiving myself was the best thing i could do to myself. Forgiving my spouse was the best thing i did for our marriage. We are happier, we never get enough of each other, we love each other's company. We are better communicators, better parents, better friends. Blessings in time of disguise.
When you think about your spouse and all that comes in your mind is divorce, please let your feelings be known to them. Have a tete a tete with them. Let your spouse be your confidant, nothing brings happiness to the soul, than knowing someone loves you unconditionally and you can count on them for any kind of support.
Understand your emotions, you will at times be filled with so much doubt about your spouse and like me you feel you will be better if you walked away. I struggled with this issue and am lucky i got a spouse whose resilience towards our marriage has made us even stronger, i never stop to remind him he is the pillar of our marriage, he is the anchor that hold us together. One time after my doubting escapades(they often lead to disagreements that were turned ugly) he asked me
" what will you gain after our break up?"
The best revenge you can do to a person is to forgive them. Let your act of greatness haunt them forever. Often, they learn not to hurt people intentionally. Refuse to feel sorry for yourself, Refuse to be an excuse for their mistake. Refuse to be a door bell to their behavior. Forgive them anyway.
We have impedious power within ourselves. What you feel about yourself have got a great impact on your future. What you see when you are faced with a problem, determines how many will remain in your network. Our subconsciousness seal our fate with our friends with our behavior Watch what you do, everyone is going through something and they need encouragement be their support system, do to them what you would love to be done to you.
Every day is a forgiveness day. we all are different personalities, expect different reactions from people, expect different opinions from them and respect it and you will see how well you will get along with them. We often feel frustrated when people don't share our school of thought, our diversity brings harmony. It creates a benefit of doubt, that at times calms our fears.
Forgiveness is a very wide topic. It is our day to day life. It involves disengaging with all the anger, resentments, pain, heartaches that you may have accumulated all years. Its a new beginning. A new slippery walk. You've got to have the stamina to achieve the results.
Forgiveness is holding a funeral for all the injustices done to you and burying them. It involves self love. You need to accept it wasn't your fault. Its a choice they made anyway oblivious of the consequences. Its very sad you are the bearer of the consequences.
We all react differently when faced with such i.e
- Walk Away
- Play Victim
- Play Judge
- Withdraw in anger
- Verbal and Emotional abuse
- Silence
- Blame
- Live in denial
All of the above result in more anguish leaving you almost helpless. If you feel angry, hurt isn't time to talk about it. You have got to wait till you are calm, at least. You must not remain mum about the issue, it will destroy you. You must let the other party explain and be a great listener. It will be a moment of truth, most likely they will bear it all as their actions aren't a secret anymore.
Don't argue much, it will drain your energy . Don't play victim, it will strain your mind, it was out of your control. Don't play judge, you have no clue on why they did what they did.
They could be remorseful of their actions but they sure need to explain breach of contract. You must not let yourself feel helpless
The most important thing is you, despite being wronged. Two wrongs don't make a right, restrain from name calling. Time is a healer, it has healed wounded souls, it reveals hidden secrets, it unearths a dark past. Give everything time. Time ensures forgiveness finds its path
Self-abuse is declaring war on the accused. You are capable of handling the worst betrayal. You have been designed to get a solution to anything that comes your way. think about the worst thing that ever happened to you. Are n't you glad you sailed through? do the same. learn and move on.
Acknowledge your emotional breakdown, this is the first step to liberty.
Acceptance teaches how to let go. Its a food for your soul.
No one can formulate forgiveness, its invaluable. Once you take that route you don't go back. Its an act of faith, that cleanses a soiled heart.
You must not worry what the other person will think if you decide not to up their expectations. Its your happiness that matter after all. Be a believer that you can rise above the heights of obstacles that come your way. Be confident in your own decision making, listen to your heart, you will never go wrong. There will be no room for wishful thinking.
Forgiveness open doors of Love, shuts doors of bitterness, seals resentments and keeps the hope alive. you need to resist.
Being focused towards the goal will surely keep you determined and you will have the energy to fight on when things are grey. Remind yourself why you need this so bad. Do a list of the good that you will reap, meditate on that.
Keep doing things that will motivate you stay positive. You have got to know forgiveness is not a feeling but a choice, that you agree to live with the consequences of other person's error. It is your obligation to ensure you have found new peace.
Its not over yet until you can trust again, Its not the end if you still harbor ill feelings about the offender. The day you look back and laugh off at how far you have come, you are over it. When you meet your betrayer and you got lots of peace within and still you can share a joke, you are healed.
Cheating is a serial killer, it robs one joy, it destroys relationships, it kills family ties it haunts one forever. Forgiving a spouse who has cheated on you, can be self-destructive. you are always worrying. We all are different though, if you are able to forgive and still live with them, Bless you, you are among the few. a cheater should only be forgiven if he has shown remorse and even went further to seek for professional help.
If you have can't trust someone, you just cant love them, you have got to let them go. Trust is the most important thing in any relationship. Good byes are difficult, But they sure are worth it. You get a chance to explore.
I have become a trust enemy. My hubby's every move translates to infidelity that is excusable, i feel he is not doing enough to gain my trust once more. He has kinda left me out naked to sort me out i do feel loner in this relationship. the other day, i woke up felt the urge to go home and off i went. Of course i have made some difficult and expensive decisions out of anger only to regret later. We did get through the matter and the only thing that still linger, he said, " Joan, i know you still believe in us, I will not let our Love die, i will personally fight for it"
"I have not been doing my part(Am sorry)". That did sound like someone who have made up their mind. Isn't easy to have someone commit, am blessed.
That kinda calmed my fears, i did feel like he left all to me, to figure it out. I feel like he took me for granted, he took my forgiveness for a right. I did feel hurt. I was done trying to make the marriage work. He didn't take my Regret letter for an answer, he in fact told me we got so many unresolved issues that we need to tackle, and its true.
Its amazing how much my spouse knows me. We communicate even without a conversation and that is a good sign, we connect despite all hurdles.He feels my commitment to forgiveness, he feels my pain, i see remorse and i want to give it a chance. When you love someone, you go to unbelievable heights to make a relationship work.
My spouse was only twenty, when we had our first born. He was young, radiant, full of life and now was faced with responsibility. He told me the other day that he didn't have any one to hang on for comfort, he was traumatized and an affair although it did break his heart it was the only way of pressure release. He identifies with any brother who has the same experience as his. I still feel it was a stupid, unhealthy and selfish decision, that we all are feeling the consequences. The
I do try not to get defensive, isn't easy though. we both need a healthy relationship, w need to get matters solved soberly. When i get off the line, he brings me back, at least he knows am healing. He too is on the change process.he needs to let his guard down, he needs to show what he really feels. that is the only way we can build a future. My trust gains a pound a day, its a process. He doesn't mind being held accountable for anything that would be alarming, a good sign of a man who is ready to change.
Signs of a changing spouse
Don't suppress your feelings, if you are sad tell it. If you have given it a go with your spouse, tell them when you are unhappy, what you feel, why you may be sad.it does work wonders.
changing to a new it doesn't happen in a day, its a process. When you feel frail, talk to someone you can trust, one who will provide a shoulder. at times that all we want. Yo
We have all been hurt, we all react differently but we do share a common value..forgiveness. we all need to forgive the person who hurt us and also deal with the act. Overcome the urge to drown in your own fears, trust the power within you to move mountains. Prayer always calms a shaken soul, be positive no matter what stay positive.
Hope for a better you, Believe you can grow out of the sorrowing cloud, there is grimace of hope, look at the rainbow. Its always good to associate yourself with the people who will help you grow. Avoid the negative energy, focus on a better happy future.
Remember The good Lord above is always with you and will give you the strength to cope. Stay real to yourself, Smell roses when you can, appreciate the little beautiful things that come your way.
It is rewarding to be aware of your environment, there are things that can make your coping detrimental, friends can be good and ugly. Focus on the good, look forward to be a better tomorrow. Learn from every experience, teach yourself not to hold on any grudge, learn how not t resent, keep working on growing yourself to be a better person, one whom anger will fly at your sight.
Resentments destroy our lives, it deterioration our health. Many are terminally ill because they are holding on to something that should have been dealt with years back. You have got to break the cycle, you have got to expose your fear, you have got to deny feeling guilty for their mistake, remember it was their choice, you did nothing wrong.
Relationships have been broken, families are in turmoil because everyone is battling within. we need to ask tough questions if we need to get along this unpredictable life.
At times you may feel exhausted, and the only option would be to give up, you just need to hang on, there is power and strength within yourself, you can move around.
Always when hope is grim, despair takes control and you are left for the dead, things usually take a turn. You can begin again with what remains. Everything under the universe wasn't built in a day, some took years. why would you want to be an exception, unwrap your life one day at a time. It can be frustrating if you want to do ten years job within a day.
Acceptance teaches how to let go. Its a food for your soul.
No one can formulate forgiveness, its invaluable. Once you take that route you don't go back. Its an act of faith, that cleanses a soiled heart.
You must not worry what the other person will think if you decide not to up their expectations. Its your happiness that matter after all. Be a believer that you can rise above the heights of obstacles that come your way. Be confident in your own decision making, listen to your heart, you will never go wrong. There will be no room for wishful thinking.
Forgiveness open doors of Love, shuts doors of bitterness, seals resentments and keeps the hope alive. you need to resist.
Being focused towards the goal will surely keep you determined and you will have the energy to fight on when things are grey. Remind yourself why you need this so bad. Do a list of the good that you will reap, meditate on that.
Keep doing things that will motivate you stay positive. You have got to know forgiveness is not a feeling but a choice, that you agree to live with the consequences of other person's error. It is your obligation to ensure you have found new peace.
Its not over yet until you can trust again, Its not the end if you still harbor ill feelings about the offender. The day you look back and laugh off at how far you have come, you are over it. When you meet your betrayer and you got lots of peace within and still you can share a joke, you are healed.
Cheating is a serial killer, it robs one joy, it destroys relationships, it kills family ties it haunts one forever. Forgiving a spouse who has cheated on you, can be self-destructive. you are always worrying. We all are different though, if you are able to forgive and still live with them, Bless you, you are among the few. a cheater should only be forgiven if he has shown remorse and even went further to seek for professional help.
If you have can't trust someone, you just cant love them, you have got to let them go. Trust is the most important thing in any relationship. Good byes are difficult, But they sure are worth it. You get a chance to explore.
I have become a trust enemy. My hubby's every move translates to infidelity that is excusable, i feel he is not doing enough to gain my trust once more. He has kinda left me out naked to sort me out i do feel loner in this relationship. the other day, i woke up felt the urge to go home and off i went. Of course i have made some difficult and expensive decisions out of anger only to regret later. We did get through the matter and the only thing that still linger, he said, " Joan, i know you still believe in us, I will not let our Love die, i will personally fight for it"
"I have not been doing my part(Am sorry)". That did sound like someone who have made up their mind. Isn't easy to have someone commit, am blessed.
That kinda calmed my fears, i did feel like he left all to me, to figure it out. I feel like he took me for granted, he took my forgiveness for a right. I did feel hurt. I was done trying to make the marriage work. He didn't take my Regret letter for an answer, he in fact told me we got so many unresolved issues that we need to tackle, and its true.
Its amazing how much my spouse knows me. We communicate even without a conversation and that is a good sign, we connect despite all hurdles.He feels my commitment to forgiveness, he feels my pain, i see remorse and i want to give it a chance. When you love someone, you go to unbelievable heights to make a relationship work.
My spouse was only twenty, when we had our first born. He was young, radiant, full of life and now was faced with responsibility. He told me the other day that he didn't have any one to hang on for comfort, he was traumatized and an affair although it did break his heart it was the only way of pressure release. He identifies with any brother who has the same experience as his. I still feel it was a stupid, unhealthy and selfish decision, that we all are feeling the consequences. The
I do try not to get defensive, isn't easy though. we both need a healthy relationship, w need to get matters solved soberly. When i get off the line, he brings me back, at least he knows am healing. He too is on the change process.he needs to let his guard down, he needs to show what he really feels. that is the only way we can build a future. My trust gains a pound a day, its a process. He doesn't mind being held accountable for anything that would be alarming, a good sign of a man who is ready to change.
Signs of a changing spouse
- Accountable if alarm goes off
- You still have a connection
- One who is ready to submit to professional help
- One who doesn't mind giving up his security rights i.e passwords
Don't suppress your feelings, if you are sad tell it. If you have given it a go with your spouse, tell them when you are unhappy, what you feel, why you may be sad.it does work wonders.
changing to a new it doesn't happen in a day, its a process. When you feel frail, talk to someone you can trust, one who will provide a shoulder. at times that all we want. Yo
We have all been hurt, we all react differently but we do share a common value..forgiveness. we all need to forgive the person who hurt us and also deal with the act. Overcome the urge to drown in your own fears, trust the power within you to move mountains. Prayer always calms a shaken soul, be positive no matter what stay positive.
Hope for a better you, Believe you can grow out of the sorrowing cloud, there is grimace of hope, look at the rainbow. Its always good to associate yourself with the people who will help you grow. Avoid the negative energy, focus on a better happy future.
Remember The good Lord above is always with you and will give you the strength to cope. Stay real to yourself, Smell roses when you can, appreciate the little beautiful things that come your way.
It is rewarding to be aware of your environment, there are things that can make your coping detrimental, friends can be good and ugly. Focus on the good, look forward to be a better tomorrow. Learn from every experience, teach yourself not to hold on any grudge, learn how not t resent, keep working on growing yourself to be a better person, one whom anger will fly at your sight.
Resentments destroy our lives, it deterioration our health. Many are terminally ill because they are holding on to something that should have been dealt with years back. You have got to break the cycle, you have got to expose your fear, you have got to deny feeling guilty for their mistake, remember it was their choice, you did nothing wrong.
Relationships have been broken, families are in turmoil because everyone is battling within. we need to ask tough questions if we need to get along this unpredictable life.
At times you may feel exhausted, and the only option would be to give up, you just need to hang on, there is power and strength within yourself, you can move around.
Always when hope is grim, despair takes control and you are left for the dead, things usually take a turn. You can begin again with what remains. Everything under the universe wasn't built in a day, some took years. why would you want to be an exception, unwrap your life one day at a time. It can be frustrating if you want to do ten years job within a day.
When you get your healing path things get easier to understand, things change, friends turn foe, family neglect you but you get stronger cos they don't stop your life unless you let them. Anybody who has traveled this road knows very well how forgiving can be time consuming, u feel caged, frustrated, disappointed who said forgiveness is easy? but it is the best gift you can give to yourself. Betrayal is inevitable, how you handle it is optional. You must strive to get over it with a calm mind, you emerge stronger.
A nagging thought 'it was my fault' can be haunting, it keeps ringing every hour but you have got to stamp on it and listen to your heart lots of inspiration would be oozing from it. Do what will help you grow, write a book, indulge in a new hobby, join a support group, seek therapy, there are lots of options to help you get over it. Always imagine yourself inspiring others wearing a smile cos it will happen someday.
Its never the end, unless you declare it to be, let it be your beginning, its your dawn, A new Morning, A new day, fill in the blanks with a positive attitude. Acceptance saves you from depression, don't let it rule over you, be the master and say no to pain. You must embrace your feelings, if you feel hurt deal with it, if you feel you like crying please do, everything will turn out good.
You must become a fighter, you must soldier on, you must never give up on what you believe in, you must always focus on the goal. You must not let nothing stop you, even when you feel frail and out of strength soldier on. You must get your way out, there is always a way out of every obstacle, figure it out, get creative, do what you must do. There is unspoken joy after a struggle, i assure you, you will appreciate yourself more.
Hate and anger does cause pain and resentment that only do harm to you, you have got to let go what you still holding on if it is negative..choose today to be set free. Free from your wicked past, free from betrayal. The willingness to punish your offender always result in disappointment cos they don't react as you want them to.
I have used tough and strong language against my spouse, it always backfires on me, it hurts him and i end getting hurt more, one for saying them words and second for seeing the damage i do to our relationship.
I made a decision to let myself heal, to trust him,he gave me every reason to. Whenever thoughts of doubts would cross my mind, i would gladly shut them off, i had already given them enough room and it was time to deal with them. You feel whole again, you feel free. Life gets a new meaning.
You have a relationship to protect, it could be with yourself and others, you need to forgive yourself before you can extend it to others. Forgiveness is two way. You may also be the betrayer whom guiltiness has taken a toll on. Forgive yourself and learn from the mistake. Any one else who comes into your life, treat them better.
Always focus on the end result, you will not loose focus. As you embark on the healing lane, be conscious of your reaction to different situations in your life. You must not let the victim in you influence you in making hasty and bad decisions. If there is no peace within ourselves we tend to make decisions we would normally not do and they can be expensive. i have traveled that road i can ascertain that.
Holding onto un forgiveness steals your vision as you tend to focus much on anger, hurt, resentment. You have got to get out of the smoky house and wipe out them tears, you will otherwise be suffocated.
Be fair to yourself, acknowledge the reality-you have been hurt or you have a hurt a soul, you need time to heal, its a process, live a day at a time. Don't get disappointed when you get to the route of doubting yourself to trust again. It is part of the process.
There is part of us that love to hold on to a grudge, we feel its justifiable playing victim massages our ego but we in fact do more harm to ourselves. People too take time to change a habit, give yourself and others ample time. Expect imperfection from them, give room for mistakes and you will be happier understanding than confronting, but i don't mean you let yourself be disrespected.
You must be ready to work on your vices and every day practice on how to overcome them. If you get back to the start, do it again, do what works for you, focus on the good. Compliment yourself when you go for a day without fail, cos i know it aint easy.
Once i discovered what my spouse had done, i got into a habit of checking his phone just to be sure, because my mind was still bruised all i saw was infidelity and did take a toil on me and our relationship, we constantly fought battles that should have been there. We were headed to a battle zone until he sat me down and told me, i got to trust him, what i was doing was hurting what we were trying to build again. I promised myself never to sneak into his in-boxes ,to date am on a clean state and things changed.
You are the only person who knows yourself best, no explanations would make anyone understand you. Don't let unhappy thought distract your blessed day, Never let an opinion weigh you down, people don't know what you are going through, ignore them. Don't seek any one's advise, most will tend to be biased. if you have decided to forgive your spouse, you are the only person who understands your decision. If you decide to leave, oblivious of a non-remorseful partner get out quietly and deal with the stresses of separation else where. You know best what is best for you, listen to yourself. you know best about the cons and pros of your decision.
While you are on the journey of forgiveness,do appreciate yourself more, you may have never imagined this would happen to you, like i did. You get to discover how prepared you are when a calamity strikes, you feel proud of yourself.
Focus on the positive aspects of life, don't let the negative ones destroy your joy. Accept your concern for the fear and butterflies that will oftentimes fill your stomach. Learn to live true to yourself and when the betrayer makes changes to make you happy, tell them and be grateful.This will encourage them to even please you more.
Let forgiveness drive out anger, all the resentments, and let the clean beautiful soul remain. Replace the pain you feel with a loving heart. Let love be the judge. Be the change you want to see in your relationship. If you want to see things change, you must be willing to go an extra mile, you must take the first step..at the end of the road every experience you have been through and every tear as you sailed through the rugged seas, it will be worth it.
You may go through a phase where you feel you can trust as you did, you cant hold on as you used to. You may not have much strength to trust any promises from them especially, change of character. Some how you will always feel afraid of the unknown especially another heart break. i have been there done that and am better now. Am amazed by myself, on how much i haave been able to heal and rebuild my trust for my spouse. i no longer feel like it ios necessary to spy on him. It finally feels home.
Its so difficult to focus on forgiveness when your spouse constantly does the same things that lead to infidelity. They make you loose interest in them
even love can be re-born
I do feel like i would be betraying myself by leaving my spouse. i would leave him vulnerable up for worse. He got so much in his closet that if i left he would feel so naked. But am not his keeper, i feel i assist him get sober, but that's my problem, i think i can fix him. the bitter truth is that, i cannot. He has made his choices to be selfish and the consequences zero down to me.
Things don't always happen as planned. Ensure you got a plan B, just in case.A change is a process, be kind to yourself and others.They are like baby steps, you stand you fall, you crawl, the joint hurts, you fall so many times till you walk. we all know it isn't easy you need loads and tonnes of patience especially with yourself cos when your insecurity turns up you hurt people and ends up getting hurt even more. You tend to hate yourself but be good to yourself.
As you embark on this journey of forgiveness you tend to have so many questions, and you risk being a nag. Watch the kind of questions you ask if they are often its time to focus on something else. Focus more on yourself, once you are comfortable with yourself it is easy to cope with the significant other.
Differences never drew couples apart, the handling of the differences is the culprit. Deal with the issue and not the person(although it is difficult not to associate the doer with the action). They should be a lesson to both parties on the responsibilities in the relationship.
All successful and happy relationships consist of compromise, sacrifice, communication, constant forgiveness and understanding, loads of compliments and use of the magical words(please, thank you). Great relationships are not only hard work but TOO. Avoid resentments at all costs, they damage happy people, always communicate your feelings. Your partner will appreciate your effort to sort out things other than being mum and unresponsive, i can ascertain these.
You must believe in yourself, in your spouse and your union if you need to see maturity. If you believe in something, you always strive to be at your best, you will reap the great fruits, dont you despair. With Love no obstacle should be a hurdle, Love conquered the worst battle, it can fight for your marriage, it can fight for your friendship, it will do it for you just let it be.
Keep vigilant of the things that bring conflict, avoid them. Although human nature is to rebel, be the person your spouse loves to hang around with. Be kinder, what they love do it more. Let the misunderstandings you face be challenges that will let you be creative dynamic in your solving skills.Same problems can be solved differently every time. Avoid the attack phrases that tend to stretch you two even further apart, remember at the end of the day you still need your spouse. You don't want to leave them bruised with hurtful words that you said to them.
When times are tough always get to see a good in every negative. Believe in yourself, your confidence will attract your life desires. You get what you are looking for. Strive for the best marriage, strive to be the best employee/er, treat people with care and concern. Forgiveness heals wounded careers, it restores ailing personalities. A grudge imprisons you to a cage of unhappiness, terminal illness, make a decision to forgive yourself and others.
Most of us are guilty not because we hurt others but cos we let ourselves down. We are our own enemy, we must let go and forgive ourselves. when you feel like you are running out of energy, surround yourself with positive environment have faith in yourself. You must be happy and at peace with yourself if you want to be happy in your relationships.
As opposed to seeing what your partner is contributing to the problem, be the solution focused person, you could be the problem. Wear their shoe too, spend a day in their world, yo may learn something about them that you never had. Truth be told, people don't decide to be unfaithful, friendships don't just break, there is always a series of negative energy that been built up. It is advisable to work on disagreements head on. Resentments should never find a room in your heart. Learn to be a good communicator.
Appreciate yourself more, Invest in you, The people who hurt you may not always understand their selfish behavior did have consequential outcome, they may never apologize or even make an effort to change. It isn't your business what they do, deal with yourself let them go, life has its own way of revenge.
Holding on to resentments binds you to that person, you are imprisoned to them, forgiveness gives you freedom. If its your spouse, if you decide to forgive them, don't remind them of the past for a present mistake. Forgiven spouses too battle with guiltiness and it does take a toll on them. they too need to heal. They need your support too as much as you need to hold them accountable for their actions.
Forgiving myself was the best thing i could do to myself. Forgiving my spouse was the best thing i did for our marriage. We are happier, we never get enough of each other, we love each other's company. We are better communicators, better parents, better friends. Blessings in time of disguise.
When you think about your spouse and all that comes in your mind is divorce, please let your feelings be known to them. Have a tete a tete with them. Let your spouse be your confidant, nothing brings happiness to the soul, than knowing someone loves you unconditionally and you can count on them for any kind of support.
Understand your emotions, you will at times be filled with so much doubt about your spouse and like me you feel you will be better if you walked away. I struggled with this issue and am lucky i got a spouse whose resilience towards our marriage has made us even stronger, i never stop to remind him he is the pillar of our marriage, he is the anchor that hold us together. One time after my doubting escapades(they often lead to disagreements that were turned ugly) he asked me
" what will you gain after our break up?"
The best revenge you can do to a person is to forgive them. Let your act of greatness haunt them forever. Often, they learn not to hurt people intentionally. Refuse to feel sorry for yourself, Refuse to be an excuse for their mistake. Refuse to be a door bell to their behavior. Forgive them anyway.
We have impedious power within ourselves. What you feel about yourself have got a great impact on your future. What you see when you are faced with a problem, determines how many will remain in your network. Our subconsciousness seal our fate with our friends with our behavior Watch what you do, everyone is going through something and they need encouragement be their support system, do to them what you would love to be done to you.
Every day is a forgiveness day. we all are different personalities, expect different reactions from people, expect different opinions from them and respect it and you will see how well you will get along with them. We often feel frustrated when people don't share our school of thought, our diversity brings harmony. It creates a benefit of doubt, that at times calms our fears.
I love you to bits
Knowing you will always be there is a plus
Every time i look at you, i see a friend who will be with me through thick and thin
When we sit on the couch having dinner, even when we say nothing, we still communicate,
i still can tell what's going through your mind
Watching you play with the kids reminds me how blessed i am
One day our beautiful children will grow and leave us the same way they found us,,just the two of us. We will be grey then but there will be joy to have had so many years together.
Its great we share so much, a house, a bed, children, it has only brought us closer
I already know what you will say even before you say it
Living together has brought so much harmony between us that we are just one, we are more than soul mates.
It has not been easy, we have our battles we won some and learnt from others. we get experience and determination to fight those that are awaiting us.
Our love our bond our relationship is growing everyday, every storm that comes our way tightens the bond.
You are my partner. My friend, My confidant,
Every passing day is a special gift o remind us we got a family to be grateful for,
We always strive to make our marriage work, with loads of selflessness, sacrifice and compromise.
We are determined not to take each other for granted, its our responsibility to ensure our relationship is enriched with love, trust and respect.Its hard work but the benefits are a lifetime.
Its feels great to have you by my side, you are so caring, always concerned although am intending not to tell you what may be disturbing me until i have sorted it out, you worry much and it does affect your health.
We will grey together
Love you much
When we sit on the couch having dinner, even when we say nothing, we still communicate,
i still can tell what's going through your mind
Watching you play with the kids reminds me how blessed i am
One day our beautiful children will grow and leave us the same way they found us,,just the two of us. We will be grey then but there will be joy to have had so many years together.
Its great we share so much, a house, a bed, children, it has only brought us closer
I already know what you will say even before you say it
Living together has brought so much harmony between us that we are just one, we are more than soul mates.
It has not been easy, we have our battles we won some and learnt from others. we get experience and determination to fight those that are awaiting us.
Our love our bond our relationship is growing everyday, every storm that comes our way tightens the bond.
You are my partner. My friend, My confidant,
Every passing day is a special gift o remind us we got a family to be grateful for,
We always strive to make our marriage work, with loads of selflessness, sacrifice and compromise.
We are determined not to take each other for granted, its our responsibility to ensure our relationship is enriched with love, trust and respect.Its hard work but the benefits are a lifetime.
Its feels great to have you by my side, you are so caring, always concerned although am intending not to tell you what may be disturbing me until i have sorted it out, you worry much and it does affect your health.
We will grey together
Love you much
Monday 10 December 2012
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Life becomes worthwhile once you accept what you cant change
Somethings are out of your control, accept it
It could be your friend didn't change, you may have taken long to know the real them
Dont be a victim, dont play the bl;ame game accept and move on
Somethings are out of your control, accept it
It could be your friend didn't change, you may have taken long to know the real them
Dont be a victim, dont play the bl;ame game accept and move on
Sunday 9 December 2012
Reason
Not all happy endings got happy beginnings
Determination and resilience can alter the wildest egos
It sure hurts to see a friend turn to a foe, but look at the positive side of it, it opens a channel of meeting new even better friends.
You need to grow too. drop them too. Your current life status wouldn't accommodate them.
They have made you the person you are today. Times change, people do even for better, there is definitely a reason they have not made to your future.
Every passing day, you make a choice. If your sad you choose to be, Every successful story has a theme of sacrifice. There was a season of sorrow, but never gave up.
You have got to fight on, you need to always put the armor of hope wherever you go
Determination and resilience can alter the wildest egos
It sure hurts to see a friend turn to a foe, but look at the positive side of it, it opens a channel of meeting new even better friends.
You need to grow too. drop them too. Your current life status wouldn't accommodate them.
They have made you the person you are today. Times change, people do even for better, there is definitely a reason they have not made to your future.
Every passing day, you make a choice. If your sad you choose to be, Every successful story has a theme of sacrifice. There was a season of sorrow, but never gave up.
You have got to fight on, you need to always put the armor of hope wherever you go
Letting Go
When you decide to forgive, its a gift to you. you need to realize you have opened a new chapter of your life. You will at times re track to what had happened when the same person wrongs you.
We have all been wronged and betrayed by the people we love
Most of us we are still carrying the baggage of that pain
We analyse it like it did happen few days ago
You may have been betrayed by your sibling,
You may still be in denial that you are no longer friends
Your best friend took off with your husband
You parent may have denied you a decent upbringing affecting your self-esteem
Your relationship with your mama may be stale
Your spouse may have betrayed you
You are struggling with forgiveness because you are in denial. Accepting a loved one broke their trust to you can be detrimental. It does haunt all of us.
Deciding not forgive feels better, it feels justified. But we need to face our fears, you need to figure out what forgiveness will mean to you. Are you afraid of letting go because it would make you helpless or are you afraid you would be hurt again?
You need to forgive to be able to move on, it doesn't really matter
You need to be able to forgive for you to trust again. If the offender shows remorse and is ready to go it again,give them a second chance, you would live to tell a story.
You must not be selfish, you too at one time were forgiven.. do you remember how it made you feel to be forgiven? there is power in forgiveness.
Forgiveness gives you the power and energy to move on. You still can end the relationship and still love and trust again. You don't want to carry grudges with you, they will weigh you down in the new relationships. You need to get better
Always remember it wasn't your fault they did hurt you, it was a choice they made anyway, you are a consequence of their decisions. You should not let it depress you, face it like an eagle, fly away from the carcass (mess)
I admit it. thinking about it, i too do wish it was just a dream. Everyday the feeling of pain demises, i know i will look back and be thankful i gave it a second chance. I was living in a world where people make no mistakes. I was the person who would never ever forgive infidelity i told my mum that often. I never gave people a chance to do mistakes. Am a perfectionist all round.
This experience has taught me patience, long suffering. It has taken me to the real world where wrongs are made rights.
We have all been wronged and betrayed by the people we love
Most of us we are still carrying the baggage of that pain
We analyse it like it did happen few days ago
You may have been betrayed by your sibling,
You may still be in denial that you are no longer friends
Your best friend took off with your husband
You parent may have denied you a decent upbringing affecting your self-esteem
Your relationship with your mama may be stale
Your spouse may have betrayed you
You are struggling with forgiveness because you are in denial. Accepting a loved one broke their trust to you can be detrimental. It does haunt all of us.
Deciding not forgive feels better, it feels justified. But we need to face our fears, you need to figure out what forgiveness will mean to you. Are you afraid of letting go because it would make you helpless or are you afraid you would be hurt again?
You need to forgive to be able to move on, it doesn't really matter
You need to be able to forgive for you to trust again. If the offender shows remorse and is ready to go it again,give them a second chance, you would live to tell a story.
You must not be selfish, you too at one time were forgiven.. do you remember how it made you feel to be forgiven? there is power in forgiveness.
Forgiveness gives you the power and energy to move on. You still can end the relationship and still love and trust again. You don't want to carry grudges with you, they will weigh you down in the new relationships. You need to get better
Always remember it wasn't your fault they did hurt you, it was a choice they made anyway, you are a consequence of their decisions. You should not let it depress you, face it like an eagle, fly away from the carcass (mess)
I admit it. thinking about it, i too do wish it was just a dream. Everyday the feeling of pain demises, i know i will look back and be thankful i gave it a second chance. I was living in a world where people make no mistakes. I was the person who would never ever forgive infidelity i told my mum that often. I never gave people a chance to do mistakes. Am a perfectionist all round.
This experience has taught me patience, long suffering. It has taken me to the real world where wrongs are made rights.
Thursday 6 December 2012
Tuesday 4 December 2012
Well Said
We all need forgiveness and we all need to forgive.
We all have been hurt and feel a grudge would be the best revenge
We all feel we were intentionally wronged/betrayed
Never for a minute do we consider the other parties point of view
We get so judgmental that we forget how special the person is
WE always should deal with the issue and not let it affect our relationship
It was your and their fault, you both contributed
You both need a common ground,
You both need to be great listeners
You may hear what isn't being said
Forgiveness isnt forgetting
Forgiveness is forgiving thyself
We all have been hurt and feel a grudge would be the best revenge
We all feel we were intentionally wronged/betrayed
Never for a minute do we consider the other parties point of view
We get so judgmental that we forget how special the person is
WE always should deal with the issue and not let it affect our relationship
It was your and their fault, you both contributed
You both need a common ground,
You both need to be great listeners
You may hear what isn't being said
Forgiveness isnt forgetting
Forgiveness is forgiving thyself
Monday 3 December 2012
Revenge
Revenge tells you you must not let go
Its a pride in its own way, worse after betrayal
We are motivated to act on the person other than the issue
We feel we are right, all the way
Revenge encourages self righteousness
Its a pride in its own way, worse after betrayal
We are motivated to act on the person other than the issue
We feel we are right, all the way
Revenge encourages self righteousness
Sunday 2 December 2012
When You Are In My Life
Everything feels right when you are around
A hurdle can be a sweet experience when we face it together
Living becomes fun despite the odds
It hasnt been easy though , we been through the roughest times of our lives
We have been through hell and back
We have had what others would call, a nightmare
Getting to the mountain top wasn't easy, there are times i felt like giving up,
I run out of patience,
My trust bank run dry
I didn't have a reason to hang on, anymore
I had had the best and ugly,
I had an experience of a lifetime
Then you broke my heart. l was in pieces
I did hurt, the pain was deep
I didn't get a reason to stay
All that was in my mind was moving on
You were better off as a past
I was ok with the memories, atleast i thought
It felt better to negotiate back
At that time i knew i would meet someone better who maybe, would treat me good
Without a doubt i knew we were done
Your reasons did sound like excuses
Until i wore your shoe, i lived your day for a few seconds
Although i still feel you should made a different decision, i will strive to find peace within me
I may never understand, i forgive you anyway
I may never forget, i forgive you anyway
When all that mattered was staying strong and focused, you did all the encouragement
Were it not for you, i would be singing a different song and dancing to a different tune
It is your resilience that we re still together
It was your encouragement that i stayed
Its your trust in me that we have come this far
You are our strength
I don't know what tomorrow holds, am better now, experienced to weather down any storm that comes my way.
When you are in my life, we can achieve the world
We are together to last,
We will travel far and wide, and tell
A story of our love.
Saturday 1 December 2012
Sometimes..
Sometimes you've got to pack all your hurts aches , and pain in a box, seal them and toss them out to a river where they can flow to down stream and pray they will disintegrate down stream.
Sometimes you ve got to sing a new song with fuller eyes
Sometimes you ve got to let loving rest just for a while
Sometimes you need no to trust again
Sometimes you need to face your fears and trust that gut feeling
Sometimes you need to sleep over to a friends place, you will learn and appreciate what you ve got
sometimes the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence
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